How to Fight the evil in you? Part 2

If you had got to check out my previous post, I am taking a step forward in fulfilling the promise
Hi5 here you go...
1. Dont Open harsh words: Always in a conversation people tend to use harsh or abuse language just to compete the opposite person. One doesn't understand that there is always a factor called self-respect in each person similar to that of you. This might be easy to control but the our friend tongue doesn't help.

2. Don't go by what the wrong says: When you very well know that this kind of action can lead to big problems please dont do that. Often we do things that we very well know that it is not correct. For example you talk over an argument you tend to raise the voice unneccesarily knowing that the problem might aggrevate. You know you open shivering when you fight in an argument.

3. Giving up here is winning: Generally you must not give up in what ever you do. But to fight the evil out of you when you are in an argument you do a world of good by giving up to the other person. I focus on arguments because it is like converyance that the world does 80% of their time. Dont take me wrong. I do argue but that proved me that I was a duffer.

4. No complexes please! Superiority complex and inferiority complex are two things that ruins relationships to the core. Take 100 cases you will see either ego, complex or misunderstanding taking seats. You lose something holding your breadth rather give up here to sustain a good rapport. Some might want to counter this issue. But take my words when you find the relationship is worth holding on to by giving up your complexes you can do good by revamping the lost bonding.

5. First Listen to be Listened: Being patient can lead you to many positive results. At this instance I would wish to narrate you a drama from real life.
There was a couple who live life simple and peaceful. The wife was seen talking to a guy by the husband on a theatre front. Immediately the husband broke out to anger and filed for divorce papers and registered the case with a lawyer. On the wife returning to the house she walked in and hugged the husband and said "Darling today I saw your brother with another girl in the theatre front and was warning him". Husband was shocked to listen that and immediately hugged her and said, "Sorry honey, It was my mistake". The wife was confused and shocked to the see the legal papers on the table. Hence listen to others to be listened.
Hope you try fight out the evil in you. Drop in your comments if you find me wrong somewhere

How to fight the evil in you?

Hi5 Steps to control evil and promote wisdom.
Backdrop
You pour a drop of water into the ocean and you can’t say or spot which drop that you poured into. Similarly you can’t identify which character of yours might irritate others or satiate others. Suppose you may let open something on a funny note that may end the other way round. You can’t help it. Suppose you stay much focused on your work and do not even spill a word out people mark you a zombie character. At all this drama you sometimes feel that it is getting on to your nerves. Ok. Trust me. I have come out with a formula that can possibly ease your mind off the tension of getting angry.
As I have mentioned earlier in my blog somewhere that there are persons in this world who want to strip your temperature high. Those people are simply bugs who enjoy the pain that you undergo.
I haven’t seen or experienced more in this world to come out with an answer. Rather I have observed that wherever the problem is it ends only in the same way. Guessed? With no solution. You fight out heavily advocating your point but there would be someone who could stand to the wrong deal.
I will narrate you an incident that happened to me. I am a car mania who wishes to speak and share information with my pals. I did the same way with one of them. We had a discussion as to the Accord car from Honda. I said it could be the best model from Honda. He immediately said “Machan (colloquial way to call a dear friend) Accord is from Hyundai and not from Honda”. I was shocked to have realized to have spoken to someone who was ignorant of which company that car was manufactured. Of course I don’t say that it was a blunder. People don’t realize that they are speaking something wrong unless proved to them heavily. I was very calm doing the same thing saying “Heh the car is from Honda and not Hyundai”. The trouble started here. Another guy who doesn’t even know how many wheels a car has came and broke out in the middle saying “Yep. Accord is from Hyundai and not from Honda”.
This raised my BP. After all the incident was over I realized that there was no conclusion. We dint arrive at a point. So what’s the point in fighting? It is very difficult for you to control your emotions when you are in an argument. That is because of the red star called EVIL in you. You have the power to control it but most often it doesn’t happen.
to be continued.........

Please avoid it asap!

My titles and captions are somewhat poetic. Thats how I wish someone to perceive when he/she visits here. Alrite! I will directly hit the nail on the bar.
All things on this earth center around materialistic pleasures and sexual desires. Thats natural. But you need something else to keep you going. Thats relationship. Mom, dad, grandparents, sister, brother, friend, fiance, lover; whoever be it, you need to vibe along. For that you need to avoid
One is that, try avoiding a conflict bcoz what appears to be a big thing will sound foolish after sometime. Let me narrate you an incident. My cousin and I had a general talk on BCom teaching in Vivekananda college in Mylapore where he studies. I said him that morning college is better than the evening bcoz students who opt that typo would have secured an admission via merit. Quite Logical. As usual he was a strict evening college campaigner and stood to his own trumpet tales. I like a goose started to counter his words which ended bleak.
Right after that incident I got a god sent forward from my friend which read as
"Most of them carry garbage and they try to shed it on you, beware you dont invite". I dont mean that my cousin is a duffer. He is really sweet. But the point I make here is that a tug of words would have been avoided had I been mum. I then realised not to open my mouth without a warrant and to sincerly avoid conflicts with even the worst ever people. Pardon my language.
Way to overcome
1. Listening to songs of your tastes when your mood swings and you are tensed. Believe me it has relaxed all my nerves to normal.
2. Speak to yourself. Your misakes, positives, potential etc to get you diverted. Or better move away from that place.

Is that better?

What if in a relationship there is always the differences and other subtilities? Is it better to break apart or to strive restoring the then rapport. According to physcology trainers, around 83% of the people in the world are mentally sick meaning they upset themslves as well as others. In the minnows the majority are professors and priests.
To me, 100% of the people are mentally as well as physically toiled. They outburst moments that are not the ideal way. Suppose a small difference of opinion crops up into a relationship the way the other person handles to fact decides the fate of the relationship. Almost always we never want to lose in a conversation. So we rule the latter whomsoever regardless to how close they were. But the ideal way is to better part from further disruptions and move the way the feel would suit them. This almost is very common in any type of relationship whether business or personal. It is called a bubble bug. The bubble never knows that it is going to burst until the last stage of expansion reaches.
Follow ABC : Avoid Bad Company regardless to committement.

Are you a whistle blower?

Heh I dint mean a conductor or a referee. Whistle Blower is a person who blows to his boss any malpractice within the organisation for its betterment preventing the others from repeating the same. Recently I read a text on the concept whereby it explained that the organization must encourage such perosns from reporting the mal practices. The same day I received a call from my friend you is a CA student saying that his boss is conducting surveys on him for the mistakes of someone else. Quickly I was took Whistle Blowing. I asked him whether there was someone behind the screen for all this. He replied positively. If there is a reporting of malpratice in an organisation - He is a whistle Blower (positive). On the contrary as in the above case if there is a mal reporting of the practices - He is an aggravated trumpet.

So.........What say.........Increase the time in refining ourselves instead of abusing others.

Thanks

Thanks boss! Generally I have seen people doing their way or carrying out things just for the sake of others. Rightly hypocrites. Most often truth is not welcomed. People prefer to accept deceptives rather than individuals who are true by self.

At my work, I had the luxury of coming to the office even at 10:30 without a claim for the same. That didn’t mean that I was arrogant. It made me travel at least 4 hours a day. But I mustn’t justify for I knew all the intricacies when I joined. All I did in my first few months were to engage the time from 9:30 to 5pm. But my office started taking turns. I began well on words with my co-staffs. But I chose to remain in my personal zone. On this journey I met a person whom I felt was true and realized his importance in the organization. I took back to him and started judging the avenues. In due course I understood his trueness and stood by him.

A famous story goes this way;

A clerical staff; merely by his hard and smart work rose to the position of the Managing Director. He had served people whom he studied with. But nothing stopped him from winning. At this juncture a small portion of the egg less cake steamed to its original attire popularly referred to as Greed. He (MD) wanted to make money effortlessly. All his wealth and assets were wiped out and was left to lanes patched with a black mark.

Moral: Desire what you think you deserve.

But I still can’t understand why GOD is good to the bad and a zombie to the genuine. Why can’t there be a bowl of poison to kill people who are blood thirst. Why must the Tsunami gobble away millions with it? Was God sleeping when the Twin Tower squashed? To all these my co staff answered in a soft voice

“Everything that happens happens because it was tuned to happen” Believe this was done by someone before you were born.

Say after my qualification I stay to a stature of a mediocre CA earning a salary of around 25K p.m. That doesn’t mean that I can sell heroine and drugs at a shop milking an amount around 3 lacs per visit. Even one in a month, a row in a billionaire. But will I add value to my name. A big NO.

I often hear people say that I want to add history to my name. Adding history to one’s name is a controversial topic. But on the face of subject it is adding value to one’s name in their life time. To this I always believe that treating everyone with equality will make a person more human than a person whose name is in the history. I hereby don’t rule out on individuals’ aim. This is often missed in each and everyone’s life.

Let me narrate you an incident where I wished a tea walah “Good Morning sir”. Immediately my friend commented me, "Why can't you wish him normally". I was thrown back when someone dictated me to behave that too in India!

When people respect and talk well across them, they don’t develop fruits of rivalry. When everything is solved by a smile, why do we need hands.